Successful Retirement - 3 Common Mistakes To Avoid At Retirement
Most people look forward to retirement. They envision this to be a time when they are not driven by the clock, have to commute or deal with work demands, and can do whatever they want. Even couples who have prepared financially for retirement are often taken aback to find that they have not prepared themselves for the emotional and mental changes that they experience after retirement.
Mistake #1:To Underestimate the Emotional Adjustment
Retirement foremost is a time of profound change. For instance, if both partners have held jobs they are now faced with figuring out how to spend days that suddenly allow for so much togetherness. If one partner has been home and the other enters that environment that also requires a major emotional adjustment. Couples who accept and acknowledge that their mixed emotional reactions are normal are well on the way to dealing with the changes.
Mistake #2: Not to share how you envision retirement
Since there are two separate people in a couple relationship it also follows that each person has his or her own ideas as to how they envision retirement. These expectations need to be brought into the open and discussed. Additionally, there are times when one thinks one knows what one wants only to find that it is different in reality. For instance, Tom thought he would want to take it easy for at least six months only to realize after three weeks of unwinding that he got bored and yearned for more structure. Whatever Tom now planned to do would also affect his wife and her ideas as to what she expected from the couple relationship.
Mistake #3: To Assume that Without Communicating all will work out.
Retirement becomes a time when couples need to communicate more than what they probably did before. They have to rely more on each other to plan and figure out how to do their retiring.
Couples need to keep in mind that retirement is a whole new experience for them. They can not have it all figured out as to what will make them happy. Much of it will evolve as time goes on. They need to talk with each other as to what they need for themselves and what they want from the couple relationship in order to have a joyful retirement.
For more tips and tools on second act success and vibrant relationships by relationship and retirement planning expert Kristina von Rosenvinge please visit http://www.kristinavonr.com
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